Guy’s Night Out; What’s In It For The Ladies
When you’re in a relationship, it can be easy to fall into the habit of spending all your time together. So when you’re beloved tells you he wants to go out with the guys (just the guys) for a night, it’s just as easy to be immediately plagued by doubts: doubts that your man is still interested in you, doubts that you’re fun to go out with, doubts that he’ll behave himself when he’s out on the town without you.
Take a deep breath and calm down. Guy’s night out is nothing sinister. Women need time with girlfriends; guys need time with other men. There’s nothing sexist or shady about it; that’s just life. You do not want to be known as the girl who denies her partner a night with the guy and here’s why;
Freedom!
It’s important for guys to not feel too tied down when they’re in a relationship. It makes them comfortable. And let’s not forget that he had a life before you met him, even if his life revolves around you these days.
Your life changed when you became a couple; so did his. And just as there are things from your single life that you want to hang on to, there are things from his single days that he treasures. Guy time is one of those treasures. If you deny him guy time, it will only make him want it more. Sounds like a sure path to dissatisfaction to me!
Make Him Remember What He’s Got
You know that you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to your guy. But it is possible to over romanticize your relationship. Remember that horrible roommate your first year of college? And how you talk lovingly about her now? When a guy spends too much time away from other single women without his significant other there to hold his attention he’s going to start longing for a time that wasn’t that good to begin with.
This is where you have to hold on to your self-confidence as hard as possible. If you find you have trust issues with your man, work those out. But in a committed, trust filled relationship, it’s harmless and even healthy for him (and you!) to go out with friends, without each other, and engage in a little mindless flirtation with other people.
You have to realize that when you give your man your blessing to hit the bars with his buddies he will be looking at, talking to and probably flirting with other women. This is not necessarily a bad thing depending on how you look at it. Provided your relationship has a solid foundation, when he compares you to other single ladies they’ll be found wanting, and he’ll be that much more excited to see you when he gets home.
Earn points with his friends
Men in relationship have male friends; those male friends detest the woman who won’t let their pal off the hook without her. This is small stuff, so go with the flow and don’t sweat it. You’ll score brownie points for yourself with his friends. To most men, this means a great deal.
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